" No.....Listen to Me"
" New Generation.... Differences" Cartoon illustration selected from:-
http://www.cartoonstock.com/directory/g/generation_gaps.asp
Gap... That what I could say. Misunderstanding in communication or communication that make misunderstanding happen? Is it because of the experience that they gone through different or they totally don't even try to understand us and tend to put a deaf ear? Even when in conversation do they listen or they keep on talking without even try to listen and understand the meaning or they actually tend to compare with what they go through? But, the past is past. Now, we are living in present and it is a different world after all.
Here are sentences that i took from a website:-
http://www.addhelpline.org/Closing the generation gap between teen sand parents.htm
( The quickest way to shut down communication channels with a teenager is to become harsh, blaming, and close-minded. )
( Teens are extremely sensitive to being lectured and "talked-down-to." Once they feel demeaned they may strike back with words that turn discussions into verbal battlefields. Parents can help keep communication free of conflict by using non-judgmental and bridge-building language. Expressions such as "let's try to figure out why this happened" or "maybe you have some ideas about how to solve this one" support the teen's self-esteem and communicate a parent's respect for their perspective. Parents are wise to avoid the typical traps that erode communication: jumping to conclusions, dragging up past problems, and predicting future mistakes.)
Yes, it is true. They shouldn't jumping in conclusion, dragging up past problems or predict future. These are mistake that most of them might not realize. First time it happen we wouldn't mind.. 2nd times it happen we will try not to say any as we respect them... 3rd time we will talk to them .. 4th time....." silent" .....This type of conversation will not have any end to it. Just an endless road that keep on and on....
Understanding, Timing, Communication and discussion, Hear and listen, then put yourself in his/her shoe.... Will this help?
Here are sentences that i took from a website:-
http://www.addhelpline.org/Closing the generation gap between teen sand parents.htm
( The quickest way to shut down communication channels with a teenager is to become harsh, blaming, and close-minded. )
( Teens are extremely sensitive to being lectured and "talked-down-to." Once they feel demeaned they may strike back with words that turn discussions into verbal battlefields. Parents can help keep communication free of conflict by using non-judgmental and bridge-building language. Expressions such as "let's try to figure out why this happened" or "maybe you have some ideas about how to solve this one" support the teen's self-esteem and communicate a parent's respect for their perspective. Parents are wise to avoid the typical traps that erode communication: jumping to conclusions, dragging up past problems, and predicting future mistakes.)
Yes, it is true. They shouldn't jumping in conclusion, dragging up past problems or predict future. These are mistake that most of them might not realize. First time it happen we wouldn't mind.. 2nd times it happen we will try not to say any as we respect them... 3rd time we will talk to them .. 4th time....." silent" .....This type of conversation will not have any end to it. Just an endless road that keep on and on....
Understanding, Timing, Communication and discussion, Hear and listen, then put yourself in his/her shoe.... Will this help?
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